Being married isn’t easy, but it’s also not that hard. There are certain things you can do in order to make your wife happy and build a stronger foundation in your marriage. Here are 7 tips to be a better husband and show your wife how much you love her and want to take care of her.
1) Don’t be afraid to discuss it
The best marriages aren’t those in which spouses never fight—they’re those in which both spouses know how to resolve their disagreements. Communication is one of the most important factors in any successful relationship. If you know your partner well enough, you probably already have an idea of what he or she needs; but even if you don’t, it’s easy enough to ask questions and find out! Most people have an easier time being kind than they do being honest, so it can take some practice to learn how talk about your feelings openly—but remember that it doesn’t mean anything less than love when couples disagree. In fact, disagreement is usually a sign that two people are on equal footing and feel comfortable expressing themselves.
You can’t fix everything: It’s impossible for anyone to make every single person happy all of the time. In marriage (and life), sometimes things just happen—and there’s nothing either spouse can do about it. There will always be arguments over money, chores, where to live, etc., because those are just part of life itself. Sometimes you’ll even have disagreements that you know aren’t worth arguing about—but you still feel compelled to argue anyway. The key is knowing when an argument is worthwhile and when it isn’t. If your partner is constantly late or never does his or her fair share around the house, then these are problems that need addressing; but if he or she forgets to take out the trash one day, don’t let it turn into World War III! Learn how to pick your battles and save your energy for what really matters in your relationship.
2) Spend time with her
As much as it can be nice to go out and have your own time, spending quality time with your wife is always going to benefit your marriage. By doing things you both enjoy together, you’ll form stronger bonds and create new memories. Plus, you’ll both feel more fulfilled in general. Not only does that bring happiness into your lives together, but it also has a way of showing that each partner cares about what makes their partner happy. Don’t forget about just spending time at home together either! You might have been used to having free reign over what you do when you were single; now that you’re married, try giving her equal say in what happens around the house and who plans what kind of activities for you guys. She probably has some great ideas on how to spend some time together that you haven’t thought of yet. Even if she doesn’t, getting her involved will make her feel like she matters and plays an important role in your life. If you’re thinking but I don’t want to do what she wants to do all the time, then maybe there are bigger issues than not wanting to spend enough time with her. If something seems wrong with your relationship overall, then work on fixing those issues before worrying about spending more time together. Spend quality time with her: Spending money isn’t everything—just because you spent $100 on dinner doesn’t mean you’re automatically going to get laid afterward (though it’s not necessarily a bad thing). Instead of focusing so much on trying to impress your spouse by buying gifts or taking them out somewhere fancy, focus instead on making sure that you’re putting effort into making meaningful moments happen between yourself and your spouse. It could be anything from planning a surprise date night to surprising her with flowers after work one day. It’s these little gestures that really matter most, even though they may seem small. And remember, sometimes saying I love you or holding hands while walking down the street counts too! Give compliments: A lot of people think they’re supposed to give their significant other compliments every once in awhile—but they usually end up forgetting about it and never actually end up doing it. But why? Compliments shouldn’t be hard to come by. They’re easy to deliver and show someone that you care about them. So start paying attention to things your partner does that deserve praise, whether it’s helping out around the house or being extra thoughtful toward you. Letting them know you notice what they do can make a big difference in how they feel about themselves—and ultimately, in how good of a mood they’ll be in when you two are together later on. Pay attention: This should go without saying, but many couples simply stop paying attention to each other as time goes on—and relationships need constant attention if they’re going to last long-term.
3) Create connections before problems
Married life can throw plenty of curveballs. The foundation you lay in your relationship from day one will help both of you face those inevitable challenges. Studies show that couples who do things together have more stable marriages, happier relationships and healthier sex lives than those who don’t get out together on a regular basis. You may think marriage takes some of your independence away—and it does—but being married also helps you become an even better individual. Make an effort now to build your friendship as well as your romantic relationship; not only will it strengthen your bond as husband and wife, but also make all aspects of life easier for years to come.
4) Communicate, communicate, communicate
This can be hard for both you and your partner. You may have difficulty speaking up about how you feel, and if your partner is insecure or jealous, they might have trouble communicating their emotions. To improve communication in any relationship, start by being completely honest with yourself about what’s bothering you—even if it’s something that seems small or silly at first. Then bring up whatever is on your mind in a calm way; don’t yell or insult each other (or throw things). After talking about what concerns you, try to come up with solutions together. Keeping lines of communication open is key to any happy relationship. So talk! Talk some more! And then talk some more after that. It will help make your marriage stronger than ever before. If there are problems, address them as soon as possible so that you can work through them together. If not addressed early enough, these problems could grow into bigger issues over time. Make sure to communicate openly and honestly with your spouse so that there are no misunderstandings between you two. There is no reason why couples should fight all of the time. By learning proper communication skills, couples can learn how to communicate effectively even when they disagree on certain topics or issues.
5) Apologize often
Being an imperfect human means we all say and do things that hurt our spouses, intentionally or not. When you do something your spouse doesn’t like, apologize immediately. Your spouse will appreciate it much more than if you wait a few days or weeks before apologizing. Even just saying I’m sorry for saying , but I felt instead of _. If your spouse is not around and you want to apologize, leave them a note where they can find it when they get home so they know how bad you feel about what happened and that you meant it when you said I’m sorry. Your marriage is worth more than keeping feelings inside because of pride. Pride can ruin relationships faster than anything else. If you are going to go down in flames, take everyone with you! No one likes a martyr! Tell your spouse what made you angry and ask them why they did those things. Then try to understand their side of things even if it does not excuse their actions. It might help put some perspective on both sides which will help later in getting past issues quicker when problems arise again. We all make mistakes, none of us are perfect. That’s why it’s important to learn from our mistakes. If you don’t learn from your mistakes then you’ll never grow as a person and become stagnant in life. The only way to truly grow as a person is by learning from every experience whether good or bad. And also remember that no matter how hard you work at something, there will always be someone who works harder than you and someone who works less hard than you. So don’t let yourself fall into despair over other people’s accomplishments because they worked harder at achieving their goals than you did at achieving yours. Instead use those people as motivation to keep working hard until eventually no one can outwork you!
6) Surprise her with little things
Making your wife feel special doesn’t mean spending a lot of money. As any seasoned husband knows, there are lots of small things you can do that will make her smile. Maybe they don’t cost much—like getting off work early and surprising her with takeout or baking cookies after she gets home from work on Friday—but they make all the difference in how she feels about her life with you. So surprise her once in awhile and see if it doesn’t bring you two closer together. You might just find yourself reaping plenty of rewards from being thoughtful. Remember: it isn’t always about buying stuff… sometimes it’s as simple as spending time together that matters most!
7) Pray together
Even if you’re not religious, you can still get some positive effects from praying together. It creates a closer bond between your spouse and yourself and will make both of you feel more comfortable with each other. In addition, praying for your spouse strengthens your relationship by giving them some emotional support and reassurance during difficult times or when they need guidance. Just find something that you’re both comfortable with; whether it’s prayer or just words of encouragement, saying them out loud can make all the difference in how well your partner feels. If nothing else, it makes them feel like you care about their well-being. That’s definitely worth doing.